You’re providing that support, or scaffolding, but also allowing your child to learn things on their own, which will benefit them in the long run.
You just fixed your child’s problem in order to make them happy, but they didn’t learn the basic skill they needed.įrom a scaffolding standpoint, you could, instead, suggest your child try putting the pieces together a different way, or you could put two pieces together to show them how it’s done, and then take the pieces apart so they can fix the toy on their own. If you’re watching them play and they’re struggling and struggling and struggling, and getting upset as a result, you can step in and put the toy together for them, but that would be a form of helicopter parenting.
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Scaffold Parenting for Younger Childrenīut what about scaffold parenting before your child leaves the nest? Can you scaffold parent your adolescent or toddler? Absolutely! It may be a little harder, but it can teach your child resilience and persistence.Īs an example, say your toddler is learning a basic skill - like how to put together a toy made up of multiple parts. In contrast, a helicopter parent might actually pay the child’s bills for them buy the birth control for them and put it in their nightstand and then call up the child’s professor to see how their child is performing in class (it seems ridiculous, but it happens more than you might think). The scaffolding is removed because the building can stand on its own. But when they’ve proven over a semester that they can get straight A’s, pay all their bills on time and not end up with an STD or unwanted pregnancy, you back off. You might give gentle reminders about turning in assignments or might send them an article on the risks of STDs to hopefully prod them to visit their university’s health resources center to pick up some birth control. Going with the construction metaphors, you might provide a bit of scaffolding, aka support, to your child when they first leave the nest and go off to college.
And then, when the child has proven that they’re capable of standing upright on their own, the scaffolding is removed until the child needs it again. This support keeps children from tumbling into dangerous circumstances, but doesn’t smother them completely.
Put simply, within the boundaries of scaffold parenting, parents provide structure and support for their children, the scaffolding to their building, if you will. Scaffold parenting is a step back from helicopter parenting and it may provide you with peace of mind, while giving your child the tools they need to not end up in those worrisome situations that you find yourself thinking up in the middle of the night.
After all, how do you just stop yourself from freaking out about everything that could potentially go wrong in your child’s life? Unfortunately, the knowledge that doing so could hurt your child more than help your child isn’t always enough to stop a concerned mom.īut, there is another way. And if you have kids of your own, you probably mentally tell yourself that helicopter parenting - aka hovering, hovering, hovering and worrying, worrying, worrying over your kid - is a bad thing.īut not helicopter parenting can be easier said than done. Helicopter parenting - you know what it is, you’ve seen it in action, maybe you’ve even been a victim of helicopter parenting yourself if you grew up as a millennial.
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